Death for atheists

Had a funeral today. It's a bit strange having a funeral by/for atheists because all the rituals you know are so tied to religion. Anything short of throwing your dead in the garbage will be rituals I guess.
I have nothing against rituals per se, but I can't really name any "neutral" ones...
Anyway, here is what we did: We placed the urn in the ground. We placed flowers. And finally we stood around the grave talking about what she liked and what we remembered about her. I liked that. It felt right and very emotional.
A funeral for me is the point in time when I "get it". Someone is gone, really gone. From then on I can let go / move on / get over it.
Whatever ritual you do perform is good I think.